In the Bible, James (3:16) tells us that “where envy and self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there.” Therefore, selfishness is the opposite of love and it breeds evil. So how do we change it? James gives us the answer in the very next verses (17-18), “But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy. Now the fruit of righteous God is love.” The answer is “seek wisdom from above”; we pray!
When we have self-seeking motives in our hearts, our thinking and our actions become contrary to God, allowing evil to have reign in our lives as well as the lives of those in our realm of influence. Sometimes, our selfishness is such a part of what we have become that we do not even realize certain behaviors as selfishness. We must remember that we can do nothing in and of ourselves, only His grace can work out the selfish motives of the flesh. Again, the answer is pray for wisdom; ask God to reveal hidden selfish motives in our hearts and to help us change our ways. Then, and only then, can we peaceably live a life that yields and sows the good fruits of righteousness.